The Consequences of Infidelity and Self-Deception

By Samuel Sulaiman Bah

Why would a woman assume that it’s the man’s fault after just two days of having issues with him? Rather than waiting for an apology or a discussion, she decides to distance herself from him. In her decision to stay away, she ends up cheating with another man, unaware that he is a friend of her main partner. When she later discovers that the two men have had conversations via WhatsApp and she sees his friend's name, she wrongly assumes her partner gave out his number and holds onto this grudge indefinitely.

She fails to realize that her main partner is actually friends with this new guy she met just days after the conflict. Instead of acknowledging her own wrongdoing, she refuses to accept responsibility. She eventually comes to her partner's house to apologize, but her true intentions are compromised because she has already made plans to continue her affair with the friend. She sends explicit videos, discusses intimate desires, and even creates nude content at her new lover’s house, seemingly oblivious to the damage she is causing herself and her relationship.

Had she truly cared for her partner, she would have used that time apart to repair the relationship, instead of seeking comfort with someone else. She chose fear and distance as a solution, all while continuing her affair. Even after she travels abroad, she holds onto the belief that her main partner set her up, despite being the one at fault.

If she truly loved him, why did she continue the affair? Why did she spend more time with the man she cheated with? She even refused to end the relationship with her main partner without giving any explanation or engaging in meaningful conversation.

Why did she lie about being afraid to face her partner, while still continuing the affair? Why did she distance herself, thinking it was the best solution, when in reality, it only showed that she was more comfortable with the new man than in fixing her relationship?

She shared everything with the new man—her feelings, time, and even intimate details about her past relationship with her main partner. She complained that her past relationship was only about sex, and she wasn’t willing to continue it anymore. She badmouthed her main partner to the new man, revealing deeply personal details about their relationship, which was neither fair nor right.

Her main partner endured this betrayal in the name of love, while she mistook her feelings of lust and self-interest for love. Once her desires faded, she stopped investing in her original relationship and fully committed to her affair with the new man.

Moral Lesson for All Women:

1. A woman should never be so vulnerable or impulsive as to cheat with another man just days after a conflict, especially if she was the cause of the problem.

2. It is important to take responsibility for your actions, seek open communication, and work on resolving issues instead of resorting to betrayal.

3. True love requires commitment, communication, and the ability to work through challenges. Stepping away and indulging in infidelity not only damages relationships but also diminishes self-worth.

4. Holding onto grudges and refusing to acknowledge one’s faults only prolongs emotional suffering and prevents growth.

5. Trust and transparency are vital in a relationship. Without them, love cannot flourish.